Vows and Commitments: Tools for Spiritual Abuse?

For as long as I can remember, I have heard about vows and commitments. Throughout my life, different speakers and teachers encouraged me to make various commitments. Bill Gothard probably pushed me to make more commitments than anyone else. He Read More …

Purity Culture Messed Me Up. This New Book Explains Why.

I grew up in Purity Culture.

And while, to some people, that probably sounds like a good thing, it wasn’t.

But what in the world could be wrong with promoting purity?

Plenty. Read More …

10 Myths About Lust

Myth #1: Looking at an immodest woman is lust There is a big misunderstanding about what “lust” is. The English word “lust” is translated, in the New Testament from a Greek word that means “to set the heart upon, that Read More …

Modesty: A Letter to Myself, 10 Years Later

Dear Joel, I read your article about modesty, entitled “What Should I Wear?” I want to commend you for your passion and desire to serve the Lord. However, I want to share with you some things that God has been Read More …

Jesus Loves the Strippers, Too

Recently, I came across a blog post by a lady who helped start an outreach—to strip clubs. She and four other ladies began visiting strip clubs once a month to give the dancers a meal and gift baskets. Due to Read More …