Youth Alive 2017: WOW! What a Weekend!

Last weekend, I experienced one of the most incredible weekends of my life. I am not kidding. I went to the Youth Alive conference near Lancaster, PA. I had almost not registered for it, but God gave me some pushing Read More …

Purity Culture Messed Me Up. This New Book Explains Why.

I grew up in Purity Culture.

And while, to some people, that probably sounds like a good thing, it wasn’t.

But what in the world could be wrong with promoting purity?

Plenty. Read More …

To Be a Peacemaker

God is a peacemaker. In fact, He is the greatest peacemaker ever. This is why, when we ourselves are peacemakers, that God calls us His children: we are acting like our Father.

But how are we to make peace? Read More …

10 Myths About Lust

Myth #1: Looking at an immodest woman is lust There is a big misunderstanding about what “lust” is. The English word “lust” is translated, in the New Testament from a Greek word that means “to set the heart upon, that Read More …

Modesty: A Letter to Myself, 10 Years Later

Dear Joel, I read your article about modesty, entitled “What Should I Wear?” I want to commend you for your passion and desire to serve the Lord. However, I want to share with you some things that God has been Read More …

Sexual Abuse Recovery: Why We Help the Abuser and Shoot the Victims

It was a meal together after a funeral. I was sitting at a table with a couple of my great-uncles, and the conversation turned to dealing with sexual abusers. As we talked, it became clear that their first priority was Read More …

10 Myths about Sexual Abuse in Anabaptist Communities [Reblog]

“In my last post, I wrote about Jesus being the answer to the horrific abuse that goes on in our Anabaptist communities. While I firmly believe that, I also believe that there is much ignorance and silence about it. This is not helping the situation. In fact, I would say that the secrecy, silence, and ignorance is only compounding sexual abuse in conservative communities.

“If we are going to stand up and fight for our children, we are going to have to ditch some misconceptions about sexual abuse that are widely believed in our culture. Here are a few of them…” Read More …